On Street Charity
Last weekend I was having
lunch with expat friends Maarten and Alexandra on the patio area of this
restaurant when a beggar child came to us asking I think for money at first,
and then for food. The boy was probably eight or ten years old. Perhaps
he was a small teenager. Needless to say, chronic starvation and
undernourishment hinder physical development. Now, we had just finished
eating, and I was actually about to collect the left over bones for our pet
Machu, so it was awkward for all of us, wanting to give the boy food, but not
wanting to demean him by giving him our left-overs. In the end, Maarten
and Alexandra ordered bread and an egg sandwich for the child.
Maarten and Alexandra at Casa Msika
Normally, I don’t give to
beggars, whether they are children or adults. This seems cruel, and the
incident at the restaurant made me question why I am stingy and
ungenerous. I hope I'm not really cruel and stingy and ungenerous.
But I’m afraid after three years a PCV in Africa, I have become pessimistic and
cynical. Or more pessimistic and cynical than I normally am. Giving
the boy food was an act of kindness and generosity. Had the same thing
happened in the states, I think I would’ve given the boy bread. I have
actually done that, but to a grown man not to a boy, on Market St. in San
Francisco. Once, I even served in a soup kitchen there. But here,
I’m sorry to say, my tendency is to look away.
Many beggars people the
streets of Chimoio. There are blind elderly led by kids asking for “ajuda,”
(help). There are disabled men and women sitting cross-legged on the
streets, calling for “patrão” (a patron). While I turn away, I’d like to
think that I still see. And it is a sight painful to the eyes.
Unlike last year in Cuamba, where I biked almost everywhere, here in Chimoio I
walk almost every day in the city to go to the market, to go to work, to meet
up with other PCVs, to get something done. I don’t mean to excuse my
turning away from beggars, but at least I can see how it is easier or less
painful than interacting with them every day. Luckily, they don’t usually
become aggressive like the ones I’ve encountered in San Francisco and Berkeley.
I do take issue with
monetary handouts, however. Yes, we impoverished PCVs don’t have much of
it, but a couple of meticais is not a lot out of our pockets.
I think my issue with it, though, is that it’s an act rooted not so much in
generosity but in pity. And while this feeling isn’t necessarily bad or
negative, I do think its effects can be detrimental. I do not want the
kids to learn that it is okay to be pitied. I do not want them to learn
habits of servility. I do not want them to see foreigners as casual
distributors of change, as the natural “haves” while they are born into the lot
of the “have-nots.”
While it saddens me to see
anyone beg, I do not want the person to learn that to beg or “pedir” is
fine as the natural (and only) way of interacting or being with us. So
many times we hear the phrase “estou pedir” (I am asking or begging for
something), not just from street beggars but also from other host-country
nationals, from neighbors and acquaintances, from Mozambican friends and even
colleagues. Some say that this habit is based on a culture that shares
resources. . . Perhaps. But I do believe that giving away money based on
pity has unfavorable, cultural consequences: maybe we feel better temporarily,
but I’m not sure how real that emotion is if it is founded on this unequal
relationship and unfair cultural exchange. Perhaps pitying another person
is okay in and of itself. But if that person learns to be okay with being
the object of pity, if that person doesn’t learn what it means to act with
dignity, then this is the real danger. It is not only unsustainable, it
actually sustains the unequal relationship and unfair cultural
interaction. Giving handouts so casually can be an easy way to accept how
things are, normally. It is giving in to the way things are.